I
don't want to start this post out as a cynic, but I am. The older I get, the
more I’m beginning to realize that true love may not be for everyone. Many get
the opportunity to enrich and share their lives with that one special person,
while others spend their lives in a sailboat waiting to reel in their biggest
catch.
Love
is that intense feeling of deep affection that most people yearn for in their
lives. Who wouldn’t want this? Whether it comes from our family, friends,
profession or partner – love is that one thing we all want at the end of the day.
Even greater than love is finding that one true love – that person who will forever
take your breath away and in-turn move mountains for you. Fairy tale
descriptions aside, finding true love is finding your partner, your best friend,
the person who you can drink slurpee’s with until your brain can’t handle any
more freezes.
Beginning
at conception and continuing into my adult life, love was constantly felt from
my family and friends. In fact, I fell in love for the first time at 17. What I
thought was true love ended up fading three years later – partly due to our
immaturity and differences in life. Since then, I haven’t found that mutual
love that many around me have.
As
the years continue to pass me by, I’ve seen so many of my dearest family
members and friends experience that one true love that I’ve always hoped to
attain. Granted, some of those relationships haven’t all worked out, but the
love was there and didn’t go unnoticed. With each new relationship, I’ve become
that much more hopeful that my time is waiting for me just around the corner.
However in the past year, I’ve begun to think that maybe we aren’t all meant to
fall in love. Too many disappointments and heartbreaks have crumbled my faith
and left me with little hope.
We
all are dealt a different hand of cards and who’s to say that your hand has the
queen of hearts in it? Odds are, it may not. Our lives have the ability to
encompass many great things, but perhaps some people are just not meant to fall
in love. Maybe I’m just not meant to experience true love.
A
dear friend recently told me to stop running and evaluate my life. What
mistakes have I made, what changes should I make, what will help shape me into
the person I hope to be by 30? Many of these questions remain uncertain, but
the running path has cleared too much for me to stop running; true love just isn’t
for everyone.
The
realist in me believes this to be the true. Albeit, the dreamer in me hopes the
realist trips over and falls, leaving the dreamer to prevail.
Love,
Anonymous
Not for nothin but do you realize you have answered your own question in your second sentence? TRUE love may not be for everyone, but EVERYONE does not know what true love is for YOU.
ReplyDeleteYes, the movies tell us it's someone who can impulsivley break out in song with you, someone who knows just when to run after you and say the right thing (as if there is one) someone who vows to accept all of your irritations without ever thinking just maybe I could help fix them, someone who agrees that they are wrong for not feeling like you do..someone who doesn't exist..except for in movies...
Now music, well that's different. Why are we able to "hear" the hurt of love in song and love and relate to it so easily, but we can't do the same visually.When is the last time you saw a movie that they either didn't get back together or were happy their ex was happy...BULLSHIT..why would I want my ex to be happy, that means I was wrong and he was right, I wasn't the only one who was going to tolerate him.
We all spend our life even after "TRUE LOVE" spinning around with 1 oar in that sailboat that is supposed to be breezing us along, when it comes to love.No one is ever safe from loosing "it".. No one is ever guaranteed to find "it" Well if there is no guarantee either way..does it really exist? Is that made up, crammed down your throat belief of what "true Love" is "true" ?
You ask those "some" that have found it if they just feel like a freakin princess everyday because they have "true love" I'm sure you'll get some interesting vocabulary words in response. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS "TRUE LOVE".
ReplyDeleteThere is something called, what good does someone bring out in me that's worth comprimising for.
Don't ever expect that love equals peace..uh uh...Love is special and so overwhelming that it takes work...hard HARD work sometimes..and sometimes..none at all...that oldie hippie cliche " Love is War" had many meanings and still does.Love, is that intense feeling and it did come from our family first, it was totally unconditional...why would anyone expect any different outside their house after family worked years to get you to believe, no matter what, I love you...we teach that from birth...Our parents readily repeat I love you's even after you've paid your penance as a bad girl...knowing you had bad behavior was rewarded...ya good girl, you knew not to set fire to baby Jimmy, but I'm proud you know now. We just "relate" that ever forgiving, innocently most of the time, to what do you mean I better learn that I can't just do what I want and say sorry, it's all I've known....hopefully that happens early enough to learn from it but it most certainly does not happen with the first boyfriend.. that's when this fantasy "true Love" shit starts.
I kinda went around it the long way but point is....maybe true love is not that vision of, regardless acceptance, maybe true love is not that, we discuss and learn to disagree, lie, maybe it's tellin the truth that them butterflies in my tummy I used to get are still there but they just don't quite mean the same...
maybe true love is what you give of yourself and how happy that makes you.maybe true love is not expecting when giving...
We all are dealt a hand of cards, yes...who's to say you DON'T have the Queen of Hearts...aren't they all just blank and you fill em in?
Love is not true,
truth is love...how do you truly feel about yourself when your with them? what else really matters?
You HAVE experienced "True Love" now experience welcomed love.
Why when we evaluate our lives must we only have made mistakes? If you know something new today, yesterday wasn't a mistake. We have not made mistakes along the way, we just did some really intense learning.What changes I should make shouldn't come from the mistakes I don't really want to remember, it should come from the smiles I want more of. But your friend was right...
take an inhale, do you enjoy what you smell?